Few joys equal the joy that we feel when we find a heart that understands. – Anonymous


Big Goals are Scary 👻

The beginning of my week felt like I was skipping in a field of wild flowers. Here is how I felt:

Been practicing a daily yoga/ meditation/ gratitude for a couple of months now. Recently I have found myself watching drama but not getting sucked in. Or recognizing passive aggressive attitudes and be able to walk away.

Mid week I was in tears over my big scary goal. Now I have a step by step plan. Although the goal is HUGE and I am fighting with imposter syndrome, I know I have gone through worse so I can get through this!
In my no spend news, I broke it temporarily. Let me explain. I have been looking to save time after work so that I can work out, go on a family walk, and have time for dinner and relaxation. I recently purchased
5 glass reusable lunch containers so that I can pre-fill them as I meal prep each weekend. In addition, I purchased reusable cloth bags so that I can pre-fill them with my workout clothes. I calculated that I could easily save about 30 minutes each night
by not putting together lunch for the next day, packing my clothes, and makes shakes. I will be spending a little extra time on the weekend to get these things ready but the net of time saved vs. extra time spent still leaves me with more time to relax during
the week. I chalk this up with a smart purchase and acceptable way to break my no spend year.

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Happiness is the reward for a life lived in harmony, with courage, grace and generosity. – Anonymous

Best Podcasts of the Week

I was looking for a funny yet woo-woo podcast and found Go Help Yourself. Misty and Lisa are two comedians that read self-help books and breakdown the books during their podcast. I started this podcast with episode Wanna get your life together…ish? Check it out!

Show Notes: This week Misty and Lisa bring to you the very Practical Patty book review of Get Your Life Together(ish): A No-Pressure Guide for Real-Life Self-Growth, by Julia Dellitt, released just this year!

Julia Dellitt is a freelance writer whose work has been published by BuzzFeed, Forbes,, Lifehacker, BRIDES, The Everygirl, Aaptiv, and more. She graduated from the University of Chicago with a master’s in religion and literature, and from Augustana College with a degree in English and political science. She lives in Des Moines, Iowa, with her husband and two children.

Lisa and Misty cover some of the challenges within the five chapters:

1. Lifestyle

2. Health

3. Relationships

4. Finance

5. Career

What’s Cooking

Homemade chicken soup all thanks again to the keto/paleo crew! This recipe was ridiculously easy because I totally splurged on pre chopped onions, celery, and carrots.

Am I still on a no spend year? YES. Did I just need a little help in the kitchen? YES. Do I over spend on pre chopped veggies every week? NO. Do I feel bad for buying pre chopped veggies? NOPE. Should you? HECK NO!



What am I reading?

It has been a slow week on the reading front this past week. I am still on Calm the F*ck Down by Sarah Knight.

How to control what you can and accept what you can’t so you can stop freaking out and get on with your life.

House Hack

We all #2 💩 and probably either saw or personally own poo toilet spray. At first I thought it was a total scam and now I am a believer! Butt (pun totally intended) I find it crazy expensive (still on my no spend challenge) and decided to find a recipe to make my own. Here is the recipe that I came across that uses distilled water, alcohol, and essential oils.

Did you know that Best Buy does free electronic waste recycling? No reason to toss that old modem/router in the garbage now!

Random Stuff

Struggling to calm my mind as I work towards my 2019 goals. They are HUGE!

Enjoying the fall colors.

Cheering on parents as they run with their kids or push them in strollers. #learninghealthyhabitsearly

Integrity is choosing courage over comfort; choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them. – Anonymous

Out of College for 10 Years and Still Learning

Posted on my LinkedIn but felt that my tips apply beyond LinkedIn.

Unbelievable. It has been almost 10 years since I graduated from King’s College with a degree in accounting. I cannot believe it. I have learned so much and met many amazing people along the way.

I still remember my first job interview. I kept passing this old house thinking to myself “no way is that where I am supposed to go.” I still remember my first day of work as an internal auditor. My cube was in a garage. I had no windows. The basement was the scariest thing I ever saw. Come spring I smelled manure as the farmers got their fields ready. And within a year the whole team moved into a new office with lots of windows and no scary basements!

I was completely unprepared to be an internal auditor, but I was determined to learn and make it work. I truly believe that you can teach anyone who is willing to learn. They make the best teammates!

Three people stood out to me from my first job that helped me define what it meant to be an internal auditor. My hiring manager, John, took me under his wing and showed me how to make pivot tables and maximize my use of Excel. My senior auditor, Betty, showed me how to set up work papers and test controls. My assistant manager, Joy, taught me that you do not change controls just because they failed. Collectively they taught me to share my knowledge with others and stand up for what is right.

If I were giving a commencement speech now, here are 10 tips I would want to share with new graduates.

Top 10 Things I Learned Along the Way:

  1. You are smart and you have a strong voice but sometimes silence is what is needed. Learn when to speak and when to have silence.
  2. In the words of Ronald Reagan, “Trust but verify.” Listen with a skeptical mind.
  3. Smile and greet everyone like they are your boss. You never know when someone will advance and could possibly become your boss.
  4. You are going to Google a heck of a lot of stuff no matter how many years you have been working or where you went to school. YouTube is also very helpful.
  5. If you are stuck and have a problem on a project, have a plan no matter what. Going to your boss or colleague without a plan is dumping. Nobody likes that.
  6. Learn to work smarter not harder. Look for efficiencies in what you do because one day you will thank your lucky stars that you were able to get everything done and get out of work on time.
  7. Leave work on time. Staying late makes you look inefficient and having poor time management skills. Of course, if you messed up on a project, then you better stay late to fix it.
  8. If you must ask someone about fraud, phrase it like this. “If you won the Power Ball and we hired a bad actor, how could they cheat the system?” Then check to see if they cheated the system.
  9. Keep your emails short and simple. Nobody wants to read War and Peace each time you email them. If you must email more than twice on the same topic, offer to schedule a quick meeting. Both sides are confused, and confusion causes frustration.
  10. Learn about personality frameworks. It will help you harness your strengths, mitigate your weaknesses, and speak to others’ strengths.

Here are my bonus suggestions.

  1. Drink a lot of water. Exercise regularly. Eat right. You need to take care of yourself if you are going to do your best every day.
  2. Do not be that person who reheats fish in the microwave. Just don’t be that person.
  • “Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.” – Pele

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    Manifesting Big Goals and Pumpkin Bread

    Skipping the nail salon and getting outside for a hike was a priority this weekend. Our niece want to go get her nails done, but you all know I am on a no spend year. Instead I offered to do take out salad and a hike. It was a total success!

    I have been focusing on manifesting some pretty big and sort of scary future plans recently. I started 2019 with some goals but not clear on how I was going to make it happen. Let’s just say that great things will happen before the end of this year! And it started in 2017 when I deleted Facebook and Instagram. I guess you could call 2017 the year I started to detox. Also in 2017 I hired a personal trainer to get my physically body stronger. Then in 2018 I completed the physical space detox with The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. Finally, 2019 is my year of not dealing with the drama or mental and physical junk. Sarah Knight’s No Fucks Given Guides have been instrumental in refocusing myself on things that matter, while the Vibe Tribe Wellness podcast has kept me focused on manifesting my goals and dreams, and I continue meditating.

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    Seeing passion and enthusiasm helps push an educational message. – Steve Irwin

    Best Podcasts of the Week

    One of my favorite podcasts, By The Book, is going to have its own book written by the beautiful, brilliant, and badass ladies, Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg! The book comes out March 2020 and titled How To Be Fine: What We Learned From Living By The Rules of 50 Self-Help Books.

    I already recommended this book to two of my electronic libraries since I will likely continue my no shopping year another year (this puts me closer to the top of the list). But here is the link in case you want to pre-order.

    The podcast episode that moved me the most this week comes from Simplify and their interview with Susan Cain. I was forced into an open concept hell of an office and by Friday each week I feel drained and depleted. The office is visually loud (we have an office hoarder that over decorates for everything and takes over your space if you give her an inch). After listening to this episode I realized that I am not the only one suffering so I started leaving for lunch to find peace and calmness.

    Show Notes: In this episode of Simplify, Susan Cain discusses the ways in which introverts and extroverts react differently to stimulation and why we often overlook the strengths of introverts. Giving introverts permission to be themselves not only makes them feel better, it can unlock their potential. With a few simple tweaks, schools and workplaces can create an environment in which introverts are better able to use their unique strengths to benefit everybody.

    “The magic thing that I have heard over and over again is that the more introverts feel entitled to be who they are and proud of being who they are, the more paradoxically successful and comfortable they are performing outward-facing jobs.” Susan Cain

    This episode of Simplify packs a quiet punch. Susan Cain reveals what sets introverts apart, why our culture mistakenly views leadership as synonymous with extroversion and the powerful ways in which we can all benefit from seeing more introverts in leadership positions.

    What’s Cooking

    Pumpkin Bread! So PSL isn’t my thing but pumpkin bread sure is and thanks to the paleo keto crew I can finally have some! This bread is so good that my husband and I devoured a whole loaf in a single day! It took about 10 minutes from prep to clean up. I love toasting a couple slices at a time. Check it out!

    Paleo Keto Pumpkin Bread Recipe

    I skipped the salt (thank you Poppy for high blood pressure) and vanilla extract (cannot find a corn free version). But honestly nothing was lacking. I am going to make more of this bread again!

    What am I reading?

    The beautiful and brilliant genius, Courtney Carver, and developer of Project 333 is coming out with a new book in March 2020! Like the other book, I already recommended this book to two of my electronic libraries since I will likely continue my no shopping year another year. But here is the link in case you want to pre-order. Courtney is the one who inspired me to maintain my smaller wardrobe without feeling weird. Hello signature black dress!

    Sarah Knight’s You Do You: How to Be Who You Are and Use What You’ve Got to Get What You Want is absolutely, incredibly, amazing. It has helped me say no to stuff I really don’t care to do and not feeling bad. I plan to decline a meeting that was scheduled outside of my normal work schedule. I might feel bad for a short period but honestly I don’t care.

    House Hack

    Decide to deal with a nagging chore without nagging your spouse, partner, family, or roommates. My nagging chore was dishes in the sink when I left for work because I despise coming home to a mess. This also means that the dishwasher needs to run and be emptied regularly.

    Now I never nagged my husband. I likely pointed out to him that I love having a place for my breakfast dishes besides the sink and moved on. In the beginning, I took on the majority of the work. Now, it feels like a secretive competition between us to empty the washer and keep dishes out of the sink.

    Adopting the “whoever is annoyed the most deals with it” mentality has worked brilliantly in our home.

    Came across this lovely article about embracing fall.

    Random Stuff

    Reading on my front porch with a little light and enjoying the cooler weather.

    Striking up conversations with strangers and sharing book recommendations.

    Returning to three days of strength training a week and feeling stronger!

    “I’m so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.” L.M. Montgomery

    Axe Throwing and Meditation

    Axe throwing date night was a success! It was great to get out and have something new to try together. My husband and I got a little competitive, tied for the highest scoring game, and I lost by one game. But it was smiles all over the place!

    Since our schedules do not always match, we are going to take turns setting up a montly adventure date night. Excited to see what my husband plans next month! The new found minimalist in me is enjoying the experiences and taking a single picture to mark the memory.

    In other news, I started back with meditating. I felt off, out of balance, and not true to myself or how I wanted to live. So back to meditating I go. I don’t feel the need to beat myself up over stopping. I am proud of myself for realizing and utilizing this tool. I also spent a night on my front porch this week just reading until the sunset and I couldn’t see.

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    One touch of nature makes the whole world kin. – Shakespeare

    Best Podcasts of the Week

    After reading two of Sarah Knight’s books, I just had to check her out on some podcasts. Check out her episode on Vibe Tribe Wellness, Ctrl Alt Delete, and Intention. Absolutely excellent!

    Vibe Tribe Wellness had another awesome episode on manifesting anything into your life. Oh my #1 goal is going to happen!

    Show Notes: “You’ve probably heard about manifesting, but do you really understand how to do it?! A few years ago we got deep into The Secret and Abraham Hicks, which were great intros into manifesting for us. As we’ve been on our own manifesting journeys, we’ve realized that what we learned in those books didn’t quite cover all the details.

    So today we’re breaking manifesting down into 5 simple steps from our own personal experiences.”

    One of my most favorite authors, Gretchen Rubin, had an amazing podcast this week, episode 240: Very Special Episode: Use the Emergency Kit for Anxiety, Worry, and Stress.

    Show Notes: “For this Very Special Episode, we talk about the Emergency Kit for Anxiety—a long list of strategies to put to work immediately to manage anxiety, worry, stress, and fear.

    1. Reframing
    2. Calm your breathing
    3. Reach out to others
    4. Proximity
    5. Distraction
    6. Planning
    7. Preparation
    8. Take action in the world
    9. Making a list
    10. Energy
    11. Identify the problem
    12. Schedule time to worry
    13. Seek more information on something that’s worrying you

    Happier in Hollywood convinced me to listen to a mom and summer camp owner to make work more enjoyable in Episode 123: How To Be A Happy Camper At Work With Audrey Monke.

    Show Notes: “Audrey Monke, author of Happy Campers: 9 Summer Camp Secrets for Raising Kids Who Become Thriving Adults. Audrey owns Gold Arrow Camp, and her tips for developing a positive culture at camp are just as relevant to the workplace. Some advice? Take a moment to say good morning. And build in time for compliments! This week’s Hollywood Hack: arrive early.

    What’s Cooking

    Literally nothing new and that is ok. Sometimes you cook to survive and other times to surprise. This week has been cook to survive.

    New Hobby

    Setting silly string traps at work. I shot myself twice just trying to set the trap. You win some, you lose some! We all laughed and nobody got hurt!

    What am I reading?

    Cozy mysteries! This week I finished the second book in Carolyn Haines’ A Sarah Booth Delaney Mystery series, Buried Bones. The ups, the downs, the twists and turns kept me hooked the whole time!

    Next up is the third in Sarah Knight’s No Fucks Given Guide series, You Do You: How to Be Who You Are and Use What You’ve Got to Get What You Want.

    House Hack

    Many people complain to me how messy and cluttered their homes are but refuse to take any steps I suggest. They say that KonMari is overwhelming. I would like to counter with one single question. Isn’t your clutter overwhelming? Just saying…

    Marie Kondo, Joshua Becker, and Gretchen Rubin all offer amazing tips and methods to tidy once and for all. And I mean once and for all. If you tidy and then break the habits that got you to overwhelm, then you truly only have to do it once.

    Random Stuff

    Visited all of my doctors well before the last week of the year!

    Embracing the fall season without PSL. No judgment if PSL is your thing.

    Throwing axes in my new favorite date night.

    Walking slowly to take in all of the fall colors and decorations.

    Getting a cold nose when I stick my head out window on a car ride. 🐾

    What a wonderful place this would be if we all endeavored to be kind to just one stranger each day. – Anonymous